January 14, 2011

"It is better to marry than to be aflame" II

As the comments show, the question of marriage is not that simple.
I try to explain more my thoughts.
I just combined two facts:
1) rather many sexual, but also other kind of wishes connected to marriage (like having children, having special deep relationship with somebody, etc) in the community. Exclusions and leaving the community because of these.
2) teaching that it is not good to marry
And I tried to show that it is not biblical to forbid marriage.

My aim was not giving an exhaustive view about reasons to marry or not to marry.
Marriage doesn't delete all sexual temptations, but can make them easier to bare.
Who marries only because of sex, will probably disappoint soon. Marriage is sharing whole life, not only bed.
Even looking solution for sexual temptations, I would advice an individual to seek to know God, to avoid tempting situations, to focus on thinking and doing what is God's will. But I think we cannot exclude marriage as possible way with God, if somebody wants to marry. Of cause one should look for His leading and good advice also concerning whom to marry, so that it may take place "in the Lord"

9 comments:

Anonymous said...

I didn't have this experience. So I would not say that it was the basic teaching of the community "that it is not good to marry". When we made such a statement than it was always connected with a certain time and situation.

It is also wrong to say that "marriage was forbidden". In my long lasting time in the community we questioned every case anew in order to get the right answer, which was the same until I was there. Everyone could take part on this matter and recognition.

R.A. said...

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L. said...

Anonymous, why then during 20-30 years it was not good to marry for rather many who wanted it? Was it really better that several left God (in the communities opinion) because of it?
You may say that we cannot make the way more pleasant for us against God's will, but the Bible doesn't support the teaching that nobody can marry in practice. Even if something is not the best in our opinion, God made people different and can use also not-the-best for the good of his child. (Ro 8:28)

R.A. said...

Anonymous, I wish you happy new year and peace in your heart. May God bless you.

Anonymous said...

"But they which shall be accounted worthy to obtain that world, and the resurrection from the dead, neither marry, nor are given in marriage: Neither can they die any more: for they are equal unto the angels; and are the children of God, being the children of the resurrection."
(Luk 20:35-36)

L. said...

Doesn't Jesus speak in Lk 20 about the time AFTER resurrection? Before the quoted statement the Sadusees tested him conserning resurrection.

R.A. said...

Yes, we tried to equal us to angels, to 'play' the angels, like described in this passage. But I think we didn't manage very well. Frequent sexual sins and the state of angels don't fit together.

Anonymous said...

Not only. He speaks about those who are worthy to obtain that world and about there decisions in this time!

saved by Gods grace said...

Do some of you remeber the Bible verse where we are warned about beeing stuck in useless and endless discussions.

It sounds here that the love to each others is the secondary matter, being right is the first love.

Every brother and sister should do his best to help the weak ones.

Give a hug to e ach others and seek for all the ways how You could respect and help each others.

It sounds to me that in the beginning maybe the idea of a community sharing and caring together as Christians was ment to be good, but nowadays the fruit just hurts everywhere you go. Community members are hurt, families and familymembers are hurt, friends are hurt.. Does somebody really think this is how God loves??